To sense the client’s private world as if it were your own, but without ever losing the ‘as if’ quality — this is empathy and this seems essential to therapy. To sense the clients’ anger, fear or confusion as if it were your own, yet without your own anger, fear or confusion getting bound up in it, is the condition we are endeavoring to describe.
When the client’s world is clear to the therapist, and he moves about in it freely, then he can both communicate his understanding of what is clearly known to the client and can also voice meanings in the client’s experience of which the client is scarcely aware.
Carl Rogers